03 Jan this is my 2013
It has been a few years since I felt something special about a new year. Something unique.
2012 was intense. I learned a lot professionally and personally. I took a leap head-first into film production leaving another industry that gave me cushion for my entire acting and into producing career. So far, it has worked out well. I produced a TV pilot called UnReal, wrote a movie I’m still writing (tenth draft), and produced one called Body High. I’ve been asked to produce several more films in 2013. I suppose people take notice. Do what you do and do it the best you can and maybe you can last.
Taking that leap forced me to downsize my life. Not saying I’ve become frugal, I just don’t waste my time or money on the meaningless shit anymore and if I do, I regret it.
I’m focusing on my family. I have a beautiful fiancé and a soon-to-be step-son who at times make me think that nothing else matters. Yesterday, we all got back from a trip to Mammoth Mountain. We spent five days up in the mountains, all sleeping in the same bed, little guy in the middle, and taking a breather from the grind. Some friends joined us as well. No Internet and crappy mobile service, we were forced to live without Facebook and Instagram and even text messages. We even had no WiFi! Any other time in recent years I may have lost my mind. This time, I let it be. I was comfortable without it (I knew I could get service on the Gondola from Main Lodge in the afternoons ;-0). Point being, I was calm in my skin and my situation. That’s pretty new for me. A stress and anxiety free vacation. We made some memories and some new friends. We communicated like the old days, receptive, listening, speaking, and being heard. We called it “Cabin 40”. Definitely started a tradition.
Back home now, I’m starting to look ahead to 2013. I didn’t really make any resolutions so I figured today would be a good day to write some down.
1. I’m going to be a better future husband. I’m learning women have needs that guys don’t. Loving and touching and mushy stuff like that. Hey, it’s a start!
2. I’ll be a mentor and a coach to my future step-son. We’ve already built a strong relationship and bond and I look forward to seeing where it goes.
3. I’m keeping my family close. 2012 was the closest I had felt in a very long time to all of them. My parents, brothers and sisters, cousins, nieces and nephews, grandparents, aunts and uncles, and even the other side. Make commitments to be with them all.
4. I’ll make at least two movies and thankfully one starts yesterday.
5. I’ll downsize my life. Keep close what matters and sift out the bullshit. Surround myself with positives and don’t waste time on crap that never has a good ending. I’ve spent a lot of my life doing that and I can’t wait to see how much more “quality” I’m left with.
6. I’m gonna keep on loving my sports. I’m going to at least 10 Tiger games, and a Lions game.
6. I’ll be more in touch with my spiritual side. I used to gag at this. Not so much anymore. I’m beginning to feel something greater out there and trusting it.
7. I’m going to do yoga and pilates every week. I’m getting older and my body is broken from twenty-three years of skateboarding and snowboarding. I need to strengthen my core and stretch and heal.
8. The last one leads me to this. I’m sticking with my roots. Riding a skateboard and a snowboard. That’s the stuff that really makes me happy. Up until the end of 2012 I forgot the affect it had on me and how inspiring it can be.
9. I’m gonna be real. I’m a punk. A skater, a snowboarder, and I wear my pants a little low and my hats a little crooked. Stay real. Stay me. I’ve got a huge heart and I wear it on my sleeve. I’ll go to bat for the ones I care about and I can tell you those people don’t take up too many of my fingers. I’m dependable. You want me on your team. Keep it small, concise, and close to home. Be true to myself. In the end, the only one you’ve ever got is yourself. That’s the only guarantee. The rest is dreaming.
10. This is my 2013.